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On Motherhood

Motherhood is about accepting the limitations of time and energy, which stretch beyond you,  even if sometimes it feels they could consume you. Search for and hold on to your own true self.  If you lose that, what kind of mother can you be? Things are always changing, no matter how much we might
want things to stay the same. You could take a picture of your kids every single day, and every single day, they'd just be getting older. That's a fact. A heartbreaking fact. But still a fact. So seize your days and dwell in them fully. Look to your children
because they know how to inhabit
brief periods of time with extreme passion. And for nothing more, really, than the sake of those moments. They can help you remember that, if you only slow down and let them.
Feel fortunate because chances
are good you actually might be.

Things I've Learned About Being a Working Mom

April 25, 2012

This morning while I casually glanced at my Mom Agenda (side note: Moms you need one of these. Hurry, add it to your holiday wish list. It's the only way I manage to stay organized!) I noticed the date. April TwentyFifth. It's not a holiday, nor is it a family member's birthday. I don't have any meetings or special appointments today. Yet this day still marks a milestone for me. Two years ago today, I returned to work after having my son. It marked the day I officially became a Working Mom.

Looking back over these past two years, I've learned many things about being a Working Mom that I wish someone had told me, or more specifically, reassured me of.  Here’s a quick rundown of what it’s really like to be a Working Mom:
1.     It hurts your heart to leave your baby the first time you return to work following maternity leave.  There’s no sugarcoating it. YOU WILL CRY. A LOT.
2.     You will not get anything of value accomplished during those first days bac…

Mommy Heidi and Owen

I  was sorting my files in the old PC. Deleting some, and saving some... when I stumble upon this photo files dated 2007. 

This is a photo shoot of a Mother and Son at The Picture Company, Rockwell. I wonder how do they look now because the photos were taken five (5) years ago.

To Owen and Mommy Haydee Abayan-Sy of DLSU-Dasma/ DLS-HSI, this is for you. 

"Motherhood is a choice you make everyday
To put someone else's happiness and well being ahead of your own
To teach the hard lessons to do the right thing
Even when you're not sure what the right thing is...
And to forgive yourself over and over again for doing everything wrong" 
- Donna Bell

Interview with a Stay At Home Mom, Mary Ann Llanza-Murillo

I always enjoy getting a new perspective. I also collect snippets of people's lives via interviews. Mrs. Mary Ann Llanza-Murillo has very graciously allowed me to interview her about her experience as a Stay At Home Mom (SAHM). As a working mom, I find it difficult to imagine myself at home all day long just as sure as many SAHM's have a difficult time imagining leaving their children all day to work. This is just a quick peek into Mean's life with her young son, Jacob.

Interview With a Stay At Home Mom
1. What made you decide to be a Stay At Home Mom?
To make sure that my kids is always safe. I want to make sure that he drinks milk on time, his feeding bottle is clean, he plays, and learn things.
I don't want to get a nanny yet because babies are very sensitive and  they cant speak their feelings yet so they can't tell to their parents what their nanny did to them all day.
2. What does a typical day look like for you?
This is my routine, as soon as I wake up I need to w…

Luigi's Biking adventure

Childhood is a time for firsts: the first smile, those first words and steps, and then, later on, the first bicycle ride. All of these times are special for both parents and children. But it may be that the first bike ride is one of the most landmark experiences of a child's life. They are moving and controlling where they go – all by themselves – for the very first time. Naturally, then, all of us parents think that the first bike experience should be a happy one.

What does a Stay-At-Home-Mom (SAHM) do all day?

What do a stay at home moms do all day? Well, apparently this is what everyone thinks in a nutshell:

I saw this photo going around on Facebook and laughed because it’s so true.
Before having my son I wondered what in the world stay at home moms do all day. I mean really, could it be that hard? You make sure they don’t kill themselves, and get to chill out all day. Why do people call it the hardest job in the world? 
Well, since having my son I’ve started singing a different tune. Even to this day, at 2 years old, he still craves my attention more than anything else, and it’s hard to get anything else done, including housework, and work I need to do from home.
I haven’t been at home with him all day every day since maternity leave. I work full-time but he’s usually by my side all day Saturday and Sunday, weekends after 5pm and heck, any other time I’m not at work.
So I can’t speak as a stay at home mom but I can speak as a mother and I know how people’s perceptions of what it’s like can be …

Relish the charms of the present

You will never have this day with your children again. 

Tomorrow, they'll be a little older than they were today. 

This day is a gift. 

Breathe and notice.

Smell and touch them

study their faces

and little feet and pay attention.


Enjoy today, mama. It will be over before you know it.

A letter to my mama on her birthday.

Dear Mama Sally,
I never realized until I had my own child how difficult being a mother is. Now I wish I would have helped you more with the chores around our home. I wish I would have known the exhaustion that a mother feels at the end of each day. You never stopped loving me and you never ever left me even though at times you probably felt like it. I always had a new pair of shoes at the beginning of each school year, and you would wear the same pair of shoes for 5 or more years. You always put me first and yourself second. There are so many things you did without a second thought. You took care of me when I was sick, even though you were sick, too. You went nights without sleep from worrying. You made sure that every morning I was up and off to school. There are so many more things that I could list, but I would never be able to remember them all. I took up most of your time, leaving you with no time for yourself. You put aside your hobbies, and you barely took the time out to have…

Working Moms challenge

Having a son taught me has taught me lessons about LIFE and LOVE

My biggest challenge is having to be both the nurturer and the disciplinarian. 
Discipline is one of my major concerns, it breaks my heart to mete out punishments for unacceptable behavior, but I find it highly necessary to instill discipline. I’m clueless about how long I should wait before I give him a hug (so I don’t undermine the objective of the disciplinary action), you know, things like that. Gosh! I won’t be surprised if I get diagnosed with bipolar disorder!
The Universal Working Mom problem of juggling family and career. Even if I want to pursue a lucrative career in big firms, which I know to be highly competitive and to foster a dog-eat-dog culture, I have to opt for work that is less taxing on my time and energy as a parent. I need to conserve my energy so I can still be a good mom/parent to Luigi. Striking a balance between career and motherhood is, needless to say, tough. While it’s convenient not to have to …

Let's paint the town RED!

It’s the color of L VE!
I prefer bright and medium reds, myself, more towards bright. Plus, I get compliments wearing red. I feel like red is my best color.
I wish bright red does not have to be so dang hard to find when it comes to everyday dresses. I can handle some shades of medium red, but I’m not into dark red much myself when it comes to wearing clothing. 
Why do I love this color? It's difficult to say really except that it seems to feed my soul. It's a warm, rich, and vibrant color.  It catches the eye and makes a bold statement.  Cool colors like blues and grays seem sad to me. Red and its variations seem alive to me and make me happy.
If your favorite color is RED, what kind of things it say about you?
A love of excitementAn admiration of high speedA love of dangerEither you're an energetic person or you feel you need more energyEither a strong desire for intense emotions, or often feeling intense emotionsEither being particularly bold or aspiring …

Searching for my Auntie Menchie

Sometimes I think of tracing my roots. I wonder where are my relatives are because I only knew few of them. 

My mom and Tita Johncy (my closest auntie since birth) is always telling me that Tita Menchie is like this, like that.... All the good things describing her. But because of distance, we don't have a chance to meet and get to know each other personally. But at least I have an idea who she is, even a little bit.

Today, (September 2) at last! We meet each other in the Queen City of South! Her first words?.... "You really look like your Mama Sally!" Wow! That's a complement for me.

While dining at Hukad, Ayala Center Cebu, she showed me pictures of our relatives. Based on what I saw in the pictures, I can sense that they, I mean, WE have a happy and jolly clan! How I wish we could meet soon! I am looking forward for that to happen.

From waiting for me at the airport, dining,  prepping and pampering, up to dropping me off to place where I will be staying... This is one…

When God closes the door, He opens the window

When God Closes a Door, He Opens a Window
I guess He does. Except sometimes it is hard to see beyond the closed door. And we go banging our heads on it. And end up getting hurt with a bump on the head. And still being stuck behind the closed door.
But if we just look around we may see the light coming through the window. And while it may not be the way we wanted to go, it still might be more refreshing than being stuck in a dark room.
Since I've been staring at the closed door for way too long I decided to have a peek through my window and here's what I see:
Being a mother.Being able to get a job you want.Being able to take time off every weekend to go on holidays, from the mountains to the beach.Being able to spend a lot of time with my son who is absolutely adorable and becoming “gwapo”Being able to wake up every morning.

Being able to see beyond the closed door....and seeing the window that is bringing light into my life.

Luigi screams for Ice Cream!

With the long weekend, it was a day out for the always adorable Luigi in Festival Mall, Alabang.
The two-year-old enjoyed an adventure packed day with Mommy Dang and Titha Japs Azur. Strolling, travelling, skipping an ice-cream treat was on the agenda for the littlest Valdez, who took on the day with youthful gusto.
He seemed particularly thrilled as we stopped at an ice cream shop and even dived over the counter to point out his favorite flavor.

Juggling work with motherhood, particularly while  doing my graduate thesis is not easy but a long weekend is a breather for me and Luigi!

Mommy Blogger Awards

I was invited to witness the Mommy Blogger Awarding Ceremonies!  But unfortunately I can't come because I need to go home to take care of Luigi.
Well, I guess next time, I'll be attending this event. 
Goodluck to all the Mommy bloggers!

When Luigi says "NO!"

While everyone were enjoying their long weekend vacation, going out of town, malling, or just "staycation", ... our family stayed in the De Luxe Room of Las Piñas Doctors Hospital last August 17-20, 2012.

Luigi was confined last August 17 and discharged on August 20, 2012. I'll tell you what happened on my blog soon.

Here's some of the pictures while we were in the hospital.